Whether they're guilty pleasures or just particular characteritcs we look for in our signifcant others, friends, etc..
Why does the Black community dwell on skin tone soooo much?
Whose to blame?
The media? Or ourselves??
Take a look..
Wale - Pretty Girls
No hate or shade to Wale.. I'm actually a fan and like Attention Deficit.. If you don't have his CD you're either missing out or don't appreciate good music..
I digress..
Its undeniable how there are majority light skinned, hispanic, or white skinny females in his video.. As in many other videos.. Many responses from the Black community: Where are the brown and dark skinned females? Many people even go to the extent to use Wales Nigerian heritage as to say that there should have been more brown and dark skinned females.. Wales Response: He didn't choose the models.. (This could very well be due to self-hate of himself and his culture BUT there could also be other reasons..)
Is it really self-hate from the artist? Or is it Preference?
Is it really self-hate from the artist? Or is it Preference?
BUT as a community, couldn't we also say "Where are the "thick" females? Where are the "curvaceous" females? Where are the 'unique-looking' females?" Because as a community, Black women do not also come in different shades and looks, but different body types as well..
(FOOD FOR THOUGHT)
(FOOD FOR THOUGHT)
Whether its right or wrong.. SHADE has been and will continue to be an issue in the Black community..
..BUT WHY MAKE IT AN ISSUE??
..BUT WHY MAKE IT AN ISSUE??
The question is: Why is it so wrong to have a preference??
I'm tired of people making such a BIG DEAL or HOT SPOT issue out of preferences.
For example: The fact that some males would prefer light skinned females with long hair, "red bones," and females who would prefer men with dreadlocks, "dreadheads." Why does the preferences of OTHER people have such an influence on YOUR life? And then why do you go back and label that SELF-HATE? Does is stream from your own INSECURITIES or PERSONAL SELF-HATE?
For example: The fact that some males would prefer light skinned females with long hair, "red bones," and females who would prefer men with dreadlocks, "dreadheads." Why does the preferences of OTHER people have such an influence on YOUR life? And then why do you go back and label that SELF-HATE? Does is stream from your own INSECURITIES or PERSONAL SELF-HATE?
If your a dark skinned SECURE female would you really care that you are not in some men preferences? Are you really that insecure? MOVE ON and find someone better..
The list of outrageous preferences could go on for days.. YES it might be foolish to live your life according to preferences.. But that's it.. They are just preferences, YOU cannot change the way some people think or make decisions..
Why not look at it through a lens.. THEY are the ones that are MISSING OUT!
If you're a male only looking for a light or dark skinned female.. I already know the deal.. I'M OUT!! I'm brown skinned and I LOVE IT! I don't hold the preferences that others have against them because..
I see a PREFERENCE as an OPINION.. You're entitled to it, Why would you EVER apologize?
I see a PREFERENCE as an OPINION.. You're entitled to it, Why would you EVER apologize?
SO true! People need to stop worrying about what other people care about and get their own life together. They wouldn't be so worried about this if they would just focus on their own lives more! I mean daaaaaaaaaaaamn. lol But there are some beautiful men I'd love to love that pay me no kinda mind. But that isn't gonna dissuade me from knowing I'm beyond beautiful. Whatever happened to beauty is in the eye of the beholder which is another lense that you're talking about. Someone with 20/20 vision can't wear the same glasses as those with 20/50. And if their depiction of you is a bit blurry get over it and be on to the next.
ReplyDeletei do no tthink it is wrong to have a perfernce. as long as it is CLEARLY stated that it is ur OPINION. persoanny i do not care. a male can likke light skin females over darker ones..that is not my bussiness. But as soon as he tries to claim it a FACT that liht skin is better than "dark" i think that is where the problem starts.
ReplyDeleteThis is really dope Sasha. I wish more people could read this. I guess it's just a complex..
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